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Today’s Attempt To Save A Life, Somewhere

August 31, 2007 · No Comments

Today’s lesson is on depression and parenting.  I’m aware that a lot of single parents grapple with it, and I am no exception.

In response, I wanted to share this with you.

“Depression is a mood disorder”, so start many descriptions of the illness. That is a gross understatement. Depression does indeed seriously affect your mood, but that is just the tip of the iceberg. A clinical depression is an incapacitating illness, affecting your ability to perform tasks that require concentration and rendering you unable to work.

Via Lifehacker.

Now, I have friends that are depressed, that write me messages, and say things that are more than a little frightening to me.  You people out there, you know who you are.  I, too, had some thoughts over the course of the last couple of days that many of you would find frightening.  This is the deal.  Simply, get help.  Do NOT go through it alone.  Educate yourself about depression, which does make people do things that are simply not in their best interests. I am lucky.  I have a pretty good support group.  But don’t let things get out of control.  Make the changes necessary to get your head on straight.  Here’s one link.

Here’s another. 

Here’s a final one.

Being depressed doesn’t make you a bad person, or a stupid person, or a crappy father or mother, but it will affect your life and mind.  You may have to change some behaviors that you previously took for granted.  So what?  Do it anyway.  Save your life.  If you have had one depressive episode (and I have) you WILL probably have more.  Get professional help now.

Categories: Lifehacks

10 Instant Life Improvements? Surely You Jest

July 17, 2007 · No Comments

Apparently, jest they do NOT.

Many of our problems come from within our own minds. They aren’t caused by events, bad luck, or other people. We cause them through our own poor mental habits. Here are 10 habits you should set aside right away to free yourself from the many problems each one will be causing you.

Thank Lifehack.org for this article.  Then read the article in its entirety.

I especially liked this suggestion:

Don’t hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all: let go and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you’ll feel and the bigger they’ll look. Don’t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you’ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.

This sounds like the most intelligent thing that I’ll read all week, and this week I’ve read some amazing things.

You mean that I shouldn’t ruminate over that girl that I dated in the 11th grade whose best friend I took to the Homecoming Dance?

I think I’ll sleep well tonight.

Categories: Human Interest · Lifehacks · POW - The blog

Why Intelligent People Tend To Be Unhappy (Part 1 of 2)

March 11, 2007 · 3 Comments

Digging through the Internet, I happened to, by chance, come across this article that attempts to explain why smart people are not the happiest people in the world’s big tent.

Western society is not set up to nurture intelligent children and adults, the way it dotes over athletes and sports figures, especially the outstanding ones. While we have the odd notable personality such as Albert Einstein, we also have many extremely intelligent people working in occupations that are considered among the lowliest, as may be attested by a review of the membership lists of Mensa (the club for the top two percent on intelligence scales).

 

Education systems in countries whose primary interest is in wealth accumulation encourage heroes in movies, war and sports, but not in intellectual development. Super intelligent people manage, but few reach the top of the business or social ladder.

 

Children develop along four streams: intellectual, physical, emotional (psychological) and social. In classrooms, the smartest kids tend to be left out of more activities by other children than they are included in. They are “odd,” they are the geeks, they are social outsiders. In other words, they do not develop socially as well as they may develop intellectually or even physically where opportunities may exist for more progress.

 

Their emotional development, characterized by their ability to cope with risky or stressful situations, especially over long periods of time, also lags behind that of the average person.

Adults tend to believe that intelligent kids can deal with anything because they are intellectually superior. This inevitably includes situations where the intelligent kids have neither knowledge nor skills to support their experience. They go through the tough times alone. Adults don’t understand that they need help and other kids don’t want to associate with kids the social leaders say are outsiders.

 

As a result we have many highly intelligent people whose social development progresses much slower than that of most people and they have trouble coping with the stressors of life that present themselves to everyone. It should come as no surprise that the vast majority of prison inmates are socially and emotionally underdeveloped or maldeveloped and a larger than average percentage of them are more intelligent than the norm.

This was posted on Scribd, by Bill Allin, who is a sociologist who is most certainly more experienced than I on topics in this realm.  Thank Digg, where one can find many articles worth reading.

I would say this.  Read the article.  Think about it.  Then, steel yourself for the Part 2, coming soon (assuming that I can find the original posting), where I will explain to you in minor detail why this might be correct, and how a person can change this tendency without losing their mind, shunning society, and dying, finally, a broken old man on the street.  Or a broken old woman in some other way.

Categories: Blogs · Child Care · Children's Health · Health · Human Interest · Lifehacks

Free (Good) Stuff For Kids

March 5, 2007 · No Comments

Lifehacker brings the goods on kids’ freeware.

KidsDomain has put together a massive list of freeware for kids, sorted by subjects such as Art, Science, Math, Creativity, etc.

There is a lot of stuff here, and it’s all free. Try building a train diorama, or printing out one of dozens of free coloring books, or check out the free card games (Caveman Cards, anyone?). This would be a great site to visit with the kids for a few rainy/snowy day activities.

I am so all over this. If Kids Domain can keep kids occupied in a healthy, educational, and creative way, they certainly have my support. I will be quite pleased to give them a try, and will probably blog the results, knowing my general geekitude.

Categories: Child Care · Education · Free · Free Stuff · Lifehacks · POW - The blog

Fix Those Finances

February 2, 2007 · No Comments

Our good friends at Lifehacker have come out big for your personal finances again.

The Simple Dollar weblog ran a series during January called 31 days to fix your finances, tackling finances one step at a time so that by the end of one month, your money ducks should be sitting in a nice, streamlined row.

Oh, Gina.  How we love you.

Check out The Simple Dollar for the details.  They managed to squeeze together a mess of posts into one cohesive unit.  Now pay off that Christmas spending.

Categories: Finance · Lifehacks

Know Your Realtor

January 22, 2007 · No Comments

You should always remember - in many cases, your realtor is not necessarily your friend.

Productivity blogger Jay at Dumb Little Man has compiled a list of questions that he recently used to interview four different real estate agents.

Not all real estate agents work the same way, so it’s best to get your expectations right out on the table from the beginning.

Found in Dumb Little Man.  Hat tip:  Lifehacker.  Of course.

Anyone that’s ever dealt with real estate buying or selling real estate should be completely aware that it truly IS about the money.  The original link deals more with selling, but the same idea goes for buying.  Due diligence.  Live it.  Learn it.

Categories: Finance · Human Interest · Lifehacks

Working For The Man

November 14, 2006 · No Comments

 
It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job.  But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.  In fact, if you’re reasonably intelligent, getting a job is one of the worst things you can do to support yourself.  There are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.

Here are some reasons you should do everything in your power to avoid getting a job:

Found via The Hack.
 
I’ve been toying with this idea for some time now.
 
Really, I have been.
 
The problem is that, after so many years of working, your soul is beaten down to a pulp.  You can’t think straight:  you get confused, then all verklempt.  However, it IS possible to make money and not work like a dog.  I’ve seen it happen.  At one telecommunications company that I worked at that will remain nameless, we used to joke that you could actually feel your soul, dripping out of the soles of your feet, and pooling under the desk chair in your tiny cookie-cutter cubicle.  Bleech.
 
However, this man, he does have some very good idea.  The question is: Do you have the guts to implement them?  That’s something to truly think about.
 
So.  There’s your good news from me today.

Categories: Employment · Human Interest · Lifehacks