One of the ways that I absolutely knew that I was going to run into problems with my ex was with her religious views.
Over the years, it’s become more and more evident that religion is an ENORMOUS relationship bugaboo, especially since I tend to be vaguely suspicious of what I perceived as overly religious people due to:
1. Personal experience,
2. Education on the transgressions of self-described religious people,
3. The hideous war crimes committed by religious organizations in the name of God, and
4. The rise of televangelism.
Even so, I have nothing against religion in general and consider spirituality a good thing overall.
That said, I remember when my exes’ mother was staying in my house and we somehow got into a discussion on evolution. I asked her what she thought, and with some level of anger, she mentioned, “Well, we didn’t come from monkeys!”
I somehow resisted the urge to suggest that we came from space aliens instead, and made a mental note to watch Grace’s mother. Carefully. And I knew that religion would be one more nail in the coffin of our strained relationship.
Now, my ex goes to church between 4 and 7 times a week, and my daughter attends a religious school.
Just because one goes to church a lot doesn’t mean that they are a good person. The road to divorce can be paved with religious beliefs along with other good intentions. Take it from me, you and yours had better either be very open to different belief systems or in strong agreement.